Inside: Try using these positive things to say to your kids and watch their confidence grow!
The way you talk to your kids will stay with them forever.
Take a minute to think about how you talk to your kids.
For most of us, all too often it’s easy to get caught up telling your kids no, stop it, don’t do that, you can’t do that, etc., all the time. But that kind of negative language can feel defeating to kids when that’s what they hear all the time.
I’m totally guilty of this and I think it’s just easier to tell them what you don’t want them to do rather than reframe it in a positive way.
One the reverse side, using positive language with them has the power to make them feel more confident, loved, and overall happier.
Using positive words will also help them become more resilient. They’ll feel capable and if they make mistakes or an accident happens, they can take it in stride. It’ll help them persevere in challenging situations.
I’ve been making more of an effort to use positive language with my kids because I don’t want them to only hear what they shouldn’t do. It really does make a difference too!
I pick several things from this list to tell my kids everyday and their faces brighten, their attitude is better, and sometimes in more challenging situations, (like if they’re trying to do something new and they’re struggling) they’re more willing to try instead of give up.
These positive things to say to your kids will give them warm fuzzy feelings and can improve your relationship when you incorporate them on a daily basis.
Even if you already say these things to your kids, tell them again…and again. You might feel like your words don’t mean anything if you say them too often, but that’s not the case at all! Repeating positive language will help those words stick with your kids.
I’ve found that printing this list out helps me remember different positive phrases to use with my kids every day.
You can print off your list here!
These are great positive things to say to your kids to build their confidence!
- I love you
- It’s amazing when you…
- You did it
- You make me smile
- You make my heart full
- You can do it
- I believe in you
- Thank you
- I love spending time with you
- What do you think?
- I’m grateful for you
- That took a lot of courage
- I love being your mom
- I’m so proud of you
- Accidents happen, it’s ok
- Thank you for telling me the truth
- It’s ok to make mistakes
- I forgive you
- You were so brave
- It’s ok to be scared
- You make me happy
- You’re so good at…
- That’s a great question
- That was very kind of you
- Look how happy you made them
- I hear you
- That was a great choice you made
- I’ll always be here for you
- Keep trying
- I love that you tried so hard
- You’re so polite
- It’s ok to be sad
- It’s ok to be angry
- You’re so awesome
- You’re so creative
- You give the best hugs
- I love how you tell stories
- You’re so smart
- You’re so generous
- You’re safe with me
- It’s ok to say no
- You’re such a good friend
- I love how well you listen
- You’re so helpful
- It’s so fun when you’re around
- Let’s try it your way
- It’s fun to do things with you
- Your ideas are really interesting
- I believe you
- You tried your best
- Your opinions are valuable
- Tell me all about it
- I love that you’re so curious
- My favorite thing is being your mom
- I loved doing this today with you
- I learned something new from you today
- You’re such an awesome kid
- It’s ok, you can always try again tomorrow
- I will never stop loving you
- You have a beautiful soul
- You’re so funny
- You make me smile
- I love hearing you laugh
- I love how you used your words
- I love cuddling with you
If you’re used to telling your kids what they shouldn’t be doing all the time, (like most of us) print out this list of positive things to say to your kids, hang it where you’ll see it, and pick out 5-10 things to say to your kids everyday.
Your child will instantly brighten when you use these encouraging phrases with them. It’ll help them become more confident, feel more loved, and help them as adults. Because the things you say to them now, becomes their inner voice in the future.
So try it out! Pick out several of these phrases and watch your kids blossom!